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Review of It’s Okay to Laugh: (Crying Is Cool Too) by Nora McInerny Purmort

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About It’s Okay to Laugh

Twenty-seven-year-old Nora McInerny Purmort bounced from boyfriend to dopey “boyfriend” until she met Aaron—a charismatic art director and comic-book nerd who once made Nora laugh so hard she pulled a muscle. When Aaron was diagnosed with a rare form of brain cancer, they refused to let it limit their love. They got engaged on Aaron’s hospital bed and had a baby boy while he was on chemo. In the period that followed, Nora and Aaron packed fifty years of marriage into the three they got, spending their time on what really matters: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, each other, and Beyoncé. A few months later, Aaron died in Nora’s arms. The obituary they wrote during Aaron’s hospice care revealing his true identity as Spider-Man touched the nation. With It’s Okay to Laugh, Nora puts a young, fresh twist on the subjects of mortality and resilience. What does it actually mean to live your “one wild and precious life” to the fullest? How can a joyful marriage contain more sickness than health? How do you keep going when life kicks you in the junk? In this deeply felt and deeply funny memoir, Nora gives her readers a true gift—permission to struggle, permission to laugh, permission to tell the truth and know that everything will be okay. It’s Okay to Laugh is a love letter to life, in all its messy glory; it reads like a conversation with a close friend, and leaves a trail of glitter in its wake.

This book is for people who have been through some shit.

This is for people who aren’t sure if they’re saying or doing the right thing (you’re not, but nobody is). This is for people who had their life turned upside down and just learned to live that way. For people who have laughed at a funeral or cried in a grocery store. This is for everyone who wondered what exactly they’re supposed to be doing with their one wild and precious life. I don’t actually have the answer, but if you find out, will you text me?

My Review

One strong woman’s journey through loss and life. Purmort shares her life openly along with views, lessons, relationships, parenting, leaving you chuckling and teary eyed.

Purmort isn’t afraid to expose her vulnerability, she’s raw and brutally honest. I admire her candor and ability to express emotions with ease. Nothing was sugar coated, Purmort struggled and stumbled yet she found her way. Questioning her decisions and choices while trying her best, other times applauding her decisions. Life isn’t easy, no handbook given as Purmort emphasizes in her book, no doubt you will find yourself identifying with her many times throughout her story.

My only gripe, to many F-bombs and GD’s. So tired of constantly hearing and reading the imfamous four letter word, whip out a thersaurs people.

Inspiring story of life and survival when blindsided. Honest, funny, most of all shared from the heart.

About Nora McInerny PurmortNora-McInerny-Purmort-AP

Nora McInerny Purmort was voted Most Humorous by the Annunciation Catholic School Class of 1998. It was mostly downhill after that, but she did get to spend three glorious years married to Aaron Joseph Purmort (aka Spider-Man). Her work has appeared on Cosmopolitan.com, Elle.com, and the Huffington Post, and in the Star Tribune. She lives in Minneapolis, Minnesota, with her son, Ralph. They really like it there.

Find out more about Nora at her website, and connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

Be sure to click on the TLC banner to check out the entire tour schedule. Thank you TLC!

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Publisher: Dey Street Books (May 24, 2016)

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Donata: In the Mind of a Victim by Donata Joseph w/ Giveaway

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Publisher: Adding Doses of HOPE Daily
Release Date: December 7, 2014

I commend Donata for sharing her story. She is candid in the telling of her story and the reader will be deeply affected. I admire her courage for ending her abusive marriage and I applaud her for explaining her reasons for staying so many years under the thumb of such violence. With her unabridged candor she opens the door to a sensitive, ignored and misunderstood topic.

Not only does Donata share her experience with domestic violence but she gives signs for women to be aware of a potential abuser. Statistics are noted leaving you staggered. She also includes several organizations providing aid.

This is a must read for females of all ages, learn the signals, educate yourself on the myriad of ways abuse reveals itself. Donata discusses the phases of abuse, again doling out preventative information so measures can be taken and awareness is commonplace. This is not only a story of a woman’s survival but a handbook of sorts for empowerment.

The greatest gift we can give females is the gift of knowledge, empowerment and self esteem. The value of self worth is essential in the fight against domestic violence.

After I read Donata’s story it occurred to me society continually asks the ignorant question of Why didn’t she leave? Why does/did she stay? INSTEAD society should be asking the ABUSER Why did you hit her? How could you do that to a woman? Why didn’t you get help? Why? The questions need to be answered AND directed to the ABUSER NOT THE VICTIM/SURVIVOR.

I am a survivor, albeit not anywhere on the level of Donata’s situation. I was four months pregnant when I experienced my FIRST AND LAST taste of domestic violence. I walked away immediately and never returned, vowing to never be treated as such in this lifetime again. No one knew of my situation, not surprising since society assumes all is well if signs aren’t obvious, stereotypes aren’t fed. What goes on behind closed doors is unknown until it escalates to the point of recognition.

Once again, this is a must read, this could save a life, be the life ring someone desperately needs, this could be the answer the woman behind unsuspecting closed doors needs. Donata’s story could end the torture a 16 year old girl is facing but doesn’t know where or who to turn to due to fear or embarrassment. Highly highly recommend this informative and inspiring story depicting the facts and truth of domestic violence from a woman who survived seven years of hell, desperate to piece together her life and that of her son. A brutally honest voice from the mind of a victim turned survivor.

Synopsis
In this soul-bearing book, Donata Joseph reveals why she stayed in a seven-year abusive relationship and the incident that motivated her to leave.

She talks honestly about the judgmental remarks elicited from family and friends who did not understand the emotional, familial and financial complexity of her situation or why she did not recognize herself as a victim.

In a heart-wrenching chapter, Ms. Joseph discusses the impact her abusive relationship had on her two teen daughters and young son and the ensuing parent-child conversations that changed all of their lives.

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, consider recommending this book. Ms. Joseph wraps up her knowledge, wisdom and advice in a non-threatening package delivered with compassion and understanding.

About Donata Joseph
Donata Joseph is a motivational speaker who is passionate about image encouraging, empowering and elevating individuals in all walks of life. Whether it’s through her non-profit organization Adding Doses of HOPE Daily Foundation or through her all natural skincare line DONATA, she endeavors to make and impact on the lives of others.

“Use the darkness of your past to propel you to a brighter future.” – Donata Joseph

Author Links – The link for any or all of the following…
Website | Blog | Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Linkedin | Goodreads | Amazon

Giveaway
Donata Joseph is giving away a lavender scrub from her very own natural skin care line as well as a digital copy of her book. Click HERE to enter. Ends 12/22.

Thrilled to be participating in the tour for Donata Joseph’s Donata: In the Mind of a Victim, be sure to check out the entire tour schedule here, it runs through 22 December. Thank you Virtual Book Tour Café

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Manuscript Found in Accra by Paulo Coelho

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Reviewer: Kevin
Recommendation: 2/5 


From Goodreads
The latest novel from the #1 internationally best-selling author of The Alchemist.

There is nothing wrong with anxiety. Although we cannot control God’s time, it is part of the human condition to want to receive the thing we are waiting for as quickly as possible.
Or to drive away whatever is causing our fear. . . .

Anxiety was born in the very same moment as mankind. And since we will never be able to master it, we will have to learn to live with it—just as we have learned to live with storms.

 

My thoughts
This book is a disappointment from the author of ‘The alchemist’.

Who shall take blame for the dull presentation, the translator or the author himself?

There are quotes heard of many a time in life and there are contradictions as well. One of the contradictions noticed was when the author talks about anxiety. He says, “as we will not be able to master it, we will have to learn to live with it”. But later, towards concluding the point, he says, “the great wisdom in life is to realize that we can be the masters of things that try to enslave us”!!

All those ‘quotes’ didn’t enlighten me much, as they are either often read and discussed or we are so used to hearing those things elsewhere.

For example : Thus Spoke Zarathustra (Zoroaster) by Friedrich Nietzsche  and
The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran

 

 

Review: Talent Code by Daniel Coyle

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Talent Code
Daniel Coyle
256 pages
Publisher: Bantam; 1 edition
ISBN-13: 978-0553806847

Reviewer: Kevin

Recommendation: 4 out of 5

From Goodreads
A New York Times bestselling author explores cutting-edge brain science to learn where talent comes from, how it grows—and how we can make ourselves smarter.
How does a penniless Russian tennis club with one indoor court create more top 20 women players than the entire United States? How did a small town in rural Italy produce the dozens of painters and sculptors who ignited the Italian Renaissance?

Why are so many great soccer players from Brazil?

Where does talent come from, and how does it grow?

New research has revealed that myelin, once considered an inert form of insulation for brain cells, may be the holy grail of acquiring skill. Journalist Daniel Coyle spent years investigating talent hotbeds, interviewing world-class practitioners (top soccer players, violinists, fighter, pilots, artists, and bank robbers) and neuroscientists. In clear, accessible language, he presents a solid strategy for skill acquisition—in athletics, fine arts, languages, science or math—that can be successfully applied through a person’s entire lifespan

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