My daughter. Berlyn, was asleep on a fold-out couch at her high school prom party when a former classmate and high school dropout shot her in the head for no apparent reason. Her murder prompted me to leave the rubble of my beliefs and assumptions to go in search of answers to the most profound questions we ask ourselves. “A Flower in the Snow” is the result of that odyssey.
A heartbreaking story of a young girls life extinguished by a senseless murder. Mark Cosman intimately shares his struggle to grasp the murder of his 17-year old daughter Berlyn.
I begin thinking about Paul, the young man who murdered our daughter. I don’t have the rage or hatred for him I think I should. To me, he’s a stooge, a pawn for a greater evil with which he aligned himself. I don’t think he realized where his malevolent allegiance was taking him.
Mark searches for answers embarking on a spiritual sojourn of sorts. An existential quest on the meaning of life and death as Mark tries to come to grips with his unimaginable loss. Eastern philosophy, Judeo-Christian beliefs are questioned as Mark seeks the many questions he formulates on his daughters inane murder. As he searches his soul, his anguish almost inconsolable, desperate to find solace in some manner – for himself and Berlyn.
Mark generously shares portions of his spouse and his surviving daughters path to understanding their individual struggles. Each harboring varying feelings, each trying to regain their footing from Berlyn’s noted absence. Their world undeniably turned upside down. I admire the strength of the entire Cosman family and their openness to share their emotional trek.
I found Mark’s perspective and thoughts interesting and enlightening. His relentless quest a necessity for his survival, he went to extreme lengths to find a balm for his gaping wound. This story certainly left a stain, as a mother I cannot imagine the incredible void compounded by such heinous violence. I was also pleased the story reflected on Berlyn, her family and specifically her father, covering very little of the murderer. Mark found peace as his voyage ended.
A compelling story, bemoaning. My heart aches for those who have suffered the loss of a loved one or have fallen victim through pointless violence, the pieces virtually impossible to reassemble, the ones left behind haunted as they negotiate life without the one nonsensically stripped from life.
Author Mark Cosman
Mark Cosman’s writing began when his daughter, Berlyn, was murdered following her high school prom. It was when Mark left the rubble of his beliefs and assumptions to go in search of answers to the most profound questions we ask ourselves. “A Flower in the Snow” is a result of that odyssey.
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